defamation/harassment/sexual harassment... maybe?

I have a very strange situation at work. I am a social worker at an apartment complex. I was accussed by a coworker ( who I assisted in their termination because of buying and selling drugs from clients in said apartment complex). I was then, upon this coworker's termination, accused, by him, of doing drugs in my office, being nude, living a "swinger" lifestyle, having a relationship with this coworker, maintaining a "website" (which I assume is of a pornographic nature), and that I sit in my office naked (masterbating the day away.. umm I am a social worker to close to 100 people.. I barely have time to do my case notes) ( geez my life was much more interesting than I thought). I was question on all of this, and I was so shocked. Who wouldnt be?? I was speechless and because of this suspicious. Totally blind sided.

During the interview I was told I should have come forward sooner... I would have. But this guy was very open with his drug use. He got into a car accident onsite. Not drug tested. Injured in site. Not tested and was going to be give two months of paid leave. He was confront before by another worker but he bullied them into silence. An intern accused him of smoking crack. Not investigated. So why should I come forward? The only reason I did was because this worker threatened a client for drugs and the client put me in a rock and a hard place. This is a vulnerable population so I have no choice but to act.

There was an investigation for allegations against myself and all allegations proven false. However, at work we have interns from the local college I also attend. Interns are classified as employees of my company. The interns are tasked with giving out surveys to people living in the apartment complex I work in. Surveys capsulate property management, maintanence, and of coure the on site support staff (me) and we are ranked and comments given. Now while I support clients stating their complaints, given the past issues, I am uncomfortable and I know that a few clients have been told by this ex-coworker to perpetuate these rumors further.

My problem is that I just thought that these accusations, since proven false, would stay between, my self, the ex coworker, HR, the few clients who liked my ex-coworker and my bosses. However, now I guess interns will be privy to this knowledge now too (potentially). While I would hope interns would be professional... I am not gaurenteed their confidentiality, as they will be graduating in April. I did voice this concern to my boss, but he did not seem that interested in what I had to say.

Then there are the accusations by my bosses. During the HR meeting, they said my bosses said I dressed inappropriately. I had never been told this. However, they said I was told about my dress, and cited they sent out a mass email saying the dress code to all workers. The main complaint "well the dress you wore to (an off the clock event) was too low cut." Now my boss is overly critcal of what I wear. My Anne Taylor shirt is too low cut (no clevage). Your skirt isnt two inches above the knees when I sit down... etc. While my coworkers get away with leggings with a shirt barely covering their behinds. But I was told well since you are attractive and these accusations waged against you... you better be ultra conservative. "Your dress makes you look like your would commit the things your accused of."

This has been driving me absolutely insane. I am paranoid. I cant sleep.. I implusively record my outfits at work.. because I was told if my "dress code violations pressits you will be fired". I was also told that (off the clock yet again) that I looked like a school girl. I was wearing my favorite skirt that is mid calf length.

I just do not what to do. I used to love my job.. but now I feel like I hate it. Getting paper work done is hard.. All I want to do is sit in my office and cry.

There was a complaint against me by a client recently that I "picked and chose" who I see and I am never in the office and would not see this client.. even though I had 3 contacts adding up to two hours the previous week. I was busy when this client called. However, my boss did not even look at the case notes and said that "Well senior property manager thinks we no longer have a cohesive team because of 'what has happen.'" This was not even true I talked to the S. PMGT and she said "no... thats social worker business I was just following proto call." I broke down and just started to cry. I have two kids at home and I am the sole provider of my family, going to grad school, which I am close to dropping out of.. I didnt even attend the last half of fall 16' semester, because why bother? I was so depressed and I would just come home, cry, ignore my family, let my thoughts race, drink, and wait for sleeping meds to take effect. My reputation will soon be ruined or FUBAR. The only reason I passed last semester was because I told my instructor the story.. and he took pity on my grades. Emotionally I am gone, I put on a facade, because I have to. I have lost 30 lbs, I dont sleep (even with perscribed sleep aids), and really I just want to stay in bed, go on disbility and hide from the world.

Then on my employee review my boss kept bringing up my perscription meds, which are heavily regulated at my request. They are narcotic for severe back pain. I was honest about this. I asked him to please take out this informative because this is private medical information. He refused and then baggered me into signing it and cited that it says I dont have to agree with it, but I do have to sign it. So I did, because I am exhausted and I barely have any fight in me. I just want to be left alone.