I am stressed, and uncomfortable in my workplace. I feel I need some legal advice

The first one happened in 2011 and the second one just happened Friday. Hr Director has not degree in HR and I am stressed about the work ethics I have to endure because I am scared to be out of work. I have been here 5 years with no prior write ups but a hell of a ride of unprofessionlis..

I am making a formal complaint against xxxx

xxx put himself in a position “over” me that was unprofessional and abusive. He did this insidiously with his pattern of words, remarks and comments, which emotionally and mentally isolated to me at the Trend Show Event on Saturday, April 9, 2011. He picked and chose his times to attack me carefully often catching me off guard. I was afraid to work safely do to the early morning chain of events and verbal attacks.

One hour into the event. xxx aggressively showed abusive behavior toward me which was uncomfortable, belittling, and unprofessional.

He continued to belittle and abuse me with sarcastic remarks and unrealistic directions from 7:30am until 8:30am. We did not speak the rest of the day.

First Complaint, I was standing straight ahead with a product in my hand while I was backstage waiting for xxx to do their introduction. An event coordinator simply walked towards me and asked me what company I was representing. I told her I was with Osmotics and I met her last year, I am going to help in handing out the samples” she said, “okay” and kept walking. At that moment xxx came up to me about 6” from my face and said don’t you ever talk to anyone, you are not in a position to speak and we have standards at xxx and you never say more then you have to”. It was unfounded and downright embarrassing. There where people standing all around us. I simply stated, she asked me who I was with”, I started to cry due to the nature of his demeanor and surprise attack I received from this man, this was the second time he had came up to me this close and attacked me within 1 hour (he actually cornered me when we where downstairs preparing the tables for the event as well with another sarcastic rant). It was all very demeaning and abusive, not to mention his strange demands of not speaking were unrealistic. I was representing Osmotics. Was I to ignore the coordinator and stare blankly at her?

xxxx Demeanor toward Me:
• Over powering
• Aggressive
• Bully
• Angry
• Abusive
• Sarcastic
• Unprofessional
• Rageful
• Controlling
• Badgering


My Demeanor:
• Fearful
• Crying
• Trapped
• Trying to Seek Refuge/Escape
• Baffled
• Victimized
• Abused
• Belittled
• Degraded
• Trying to Defend myself
• Felt Alone

As I was trying to explain to him that his request was unreasonable. xxx continued his unprofessional behavior to me even after I told him to “stop talking to me the way he was.” After I would state for him to “stop”, the abuse kept progressing and the more verbally abusive his behavior became.
While he had cornered me behind stage, and I asked him why is he talking to me this way? What is wrong with him? I told him I am here to support him and Osmotics, I told I am here to help,” The more I stated my position, the more he seemed determine to push the abuse further. I tried to listen to him to see if I could understand what he wanted, but I could not understand his reasoning. It was very scary, I felt victimized, in fear and very much abused – to sum it up I felt mentally raped. I started to cry because this was just one of many small instances that led to the most horrible experience which is described below.
My final and most important complaint.
I tried to go “lick my wounds” and fled to the women’s dressing room and sat quietly to maintain composure. I could not believe what was happening, going over the 15 second chain of events in my head, only to look up after the 15 seconds to find Leonard in the Ladies Dressing room to continue his anger, abuse and irrational behavior on me.
I strongly believe, this is where I felt something was really wrong with him. Again, I told him to stop talking me this way and why is he acting this way, while still crying and very upset about what is happening at that moment. He stated, while pointing and speaking very loudly was, “that I should get composure, and to get it together” all the while he is not holding composure – it was very frightening. I wanted to get a away from this man but he actively followed me. It was impossible to gain composure and “get it together” why my abuser had me cornered in the “ladies only” dressing room. There where models preparing for the event – in various staged on undress which told me he was not thinking rationally and I was completely embarrassed for myself and xxx. Again, I felt trapped, I told him I was going to leave and he said “I WANT you to leave”; I don’t want you at MY event.
I know this is not my fault, and I believe something has to be done before it happens to someone else. It is not my position in Osmotics to be belittled, demeaned and patronized one on one, and especially in front of others by any one of authority, in this case xxxx.
I would like to go through the chain of events when you would like to speak further about this complaint and would appreciate a resolution and follow-up.
xxxx, I am not only doing this for myself, I am doing this for the sake of xxx. Abusive and verbal abuse from ANYONE will hurt the Corporation as a whole if it continues and is not addressed.
Respectfully,



Second incident: In draft form. Spelling and grammer not revised:

March 15, 2012
I came into work which was Friday at about 8:20am. xxx walked in about 9:15am. I heard xxx say Fuck Off to the receptionist and xxx proceeded to going back to his desk. They joke all the time, however, the wording was a little harsh then I have ever heard, I chalked it up as boys will be boys.
xxx and I had spoke the day before about breakfast sandwiches and egg beaters and I told him that the next day, which is the day the incident happened, I would bring in the spicy cheese and I would make him a breakfast sandwich with the egg beaters.
I went back to his area and stated. Hey I brought the spicy cheese in for you egg sandwich. His reply, “leave me alone”. I was unsure how to react but we are friends and I asked, what’s wrong? He screamed “LEAVE ME ALONE”. I stated, don’t speak to me that way. He stated. FUCK OFF. Then I, in amazement I yelled “Say that again xxx, because I was unsure if he was really serious” He stated. FUCK OFF. I stated, this is not okay and you have no right to talk to me this way.
I walked outside where xxx and xxx where smoking. I was shaking and upset. I told them what happened.
I am guessing they spoke with zzz.
xxx apology: xxx stated that xxx approached him about some calls concerning an e-mail that he sent out that was incorrect.. He stated he frustrated because he could not figure out what was wrong with the e-mail and that is why he reacted the way he did. “Very inappropriate behavior towards me for just being frustrated” I listened and accepted his apology, but was still feeling unsafe and unsure that this was right for the workplace and for my safety.
The first hour seemed calm. Throughout the day, things got unnerving. When I printed something on the back computer, xxx would approach my desk and throw the printed papers over my cubicle wall on my desk. Not placed… but thrown, where I would have to gather them to put them back together.
How I felt:
Unsafe, no support, and not taken seriously.
My reaction: Calm and quiet. Professional.
I did not feel safe talking or trusting the outcome because of another experience with xxxx in the first incident (which I have my documentation but never received documentation or an outcome from my Employer).
I went home that night and blogged on my facebook page, on my own computer on my own time, not mentioning xxxx or xxx but just my thoughts. I would post what I said, but I was made to delete it by my company, even though I feel it is my personal quotes and again, done on my own computer, on my own time and on my page, on my own personal weekend that I earn. xxx responded to my quote like all my other friend. I will have to get a copy of this from work because again i was told to delete everything. To add on to this my HR Director even responded with her own quote.
I walked in on Monday Morning to be confronted from my HR Director and xxx that this was inappropriate and xxx who initially told me to go on my profile information of my facebook page that they had to write me up.
OK…… so I get harassed and cursed at.. Made to feel uncomfortable. I keep my cool and waited until I am in the Privacy of my own home to vent my frustration (not mentioning xxx or xxx in my quote) and I get written up. This is retaliation by my abuser and the company. Safety in the workplace. No. Retaliation of xxx and xxx. Yes. I was humiliated and threatened that if xxx and I don’t make amends one of us will get fired. WOW. 5 Year of service, no write ups, very consistent, extremely dedicated, then get abused, harassed, and just want the company to understand that this is not okay. Do I have any safety in the law if I do get terminated?